And other things I’ve never said…

The last time I had the gall to notice that there are some bad nursing homes out there, and that even good nurses are often unable to really do good in these places, I got some enraged comments because, they said, I shouldn’t talk about nurses that way. Just yesterday I commented on a recent news item involving a hospital and another commenter’s immediate response was “don’t stereotype nurses and doctors that way”, as if I’d done any such thing. It seems people are incapable of hearing about malpractice within their own profession without immediately assuming that they are being tarred with the same brush. Either all health care professionals are saints, or none are, it seems.

Similarly, if I talk about our bloated, incompetent, soulless public education system, many (whether they agree with my main point or not, it seems) will take my words to mean that I believe that the teachers and principals are all equally bloated, incompetent, and soulless.

Normally, I’d just let these little misunderstandings things slide, because they don’t really matter, but…aw, who am I kidding? These niggling little things might not grab the attention of better minds than mine, but hillbilly mommy bloggers gotta talk about somethin’, don’t they?

So, what does this homeschooling mama think of teachers? I think they are just people. They are nothing more (or less) than fallen human beings–some redeemed, most not–just like everybody else. I will not pretend that I think teachers are heroes, nor do I (despite many union protests to the contrary) believe that they, as a group, “deserve” anything better than they are getting. Some teachers deserve a raise, some do as good a job as they can under the circumstances (bless their hearts) and some of them boff students in the parking lot. When people say “teachers are heroes” or “nurses are angels”, roll your eyes, my friends, because they are not. They are all over the place, morally speaking, just like the rest of us.

What about “salt and light” teachers? It’s no secret that I think the “salt and light” argument is a pretty weak one for sending impressionable children to be educated by a secular curriculum. It doesn’t matter who administers it. I also note in passing (just for fun) that those parents who send their kids to schools for the sole purpose of providing these little “missionaries” are funding their children’s mission trips through involuntarily collected taxes. I’m pretty sure that’s not the Biblical model for evangelism.

It makes no sense to send little Johnny off to school with the admonition to “listen to your teachers” and then expect the poor child to figure out in which situations he should disobey you by standing up to those authority figures whom you just put over him when they attempt to force him to do, say, or believe immoral things. Transferring the mantle of parental authority to the state, especially in an age when even kindergarteners are being subjected to aberrant sexual teaching, is bad stewardship of our blessings, at the very least.

But that says nothing of teachers, who are adults, and (presumably) able to discern whether they are able to be the kind of Christians they need to be in the public school environment. If they are able to avoid having to actively endorse immorality or unbiblical teaching, then they may, in fact, be great witnesses. I had a few unabashedly Christian teachers, too!

God bless you, Mrs. Henson!

My high school biology teacher, Mrs. Henson, was one such teacher. As one would expect, at least a couple of chapters of our ninth grade biology textbook were devoted to teaching about evolution. Before she got to those chapters, though, Mrs. Henson taught us about biogenesis (the fact that life comes from life), and she spent, I suspect, a little more time drilling home that point than the curriculum necessarily indicated. When she started the chapter on evolution, she reminded us of this fact of life, and told us in no uncertain terms that she was about to teach us a legally-required lie, and that life was created by God. She didn’t go on at length, but she didn’t leave any relativistic “some people believe this, some believe that” residue behind, either. She told the truth as Truth, and taught the lie as a lie, giving it no respect whatsoever.

She could have lost her job for that, and I heard students mocking her later on for both that and other aspects of her faithfulness. I’m glad she was there, and willing to stick her neck out for the sake of her students. I witnessed other brave acts like this by my teachers, as well, whether quietly expressed to students in the hallways, or subtly hinted at in sex ed classes. I don’t want anybody to think that I believe that Christians stop being Christians when they walk through the metal detectors of a public school.

That was long enough ago that I doubt that today’s environment would allow those same teachers to get away for very long with saying the subversively Christian things they said back then. While some public school teachers hit up the comment box to tell me off for not understanding how wonderfully salty they are (and I don’t doubt that at all), I get a larger number of reactions from people in the system who confirm this fear:

In my experience, the ‘suits’ have agendas, and we people at the bottom must do what we’re told or find a new job. I have been a proud, hardworking teacher for 7 years, but after much frustration, disagreement, and mostly prayer, I am trying to get out. Not only have my job responsibilities (not the kids)gotten ridiculous, the entire education system has evolved into some kind of indoctrination and money-making tool. I have seen major changes since I was a student in the same public school system, as well as in the last 7 years. I LOVE my students. That is why I cannot continue to contribute to the problem.

and, from another reader:

My husband is a public school teacher and we decided to homeschool after our oldest completed 2nd grade. We live in a rural district and he has a rather high profile as a coach for a couple of sports so there was no way to make the change under the radar. What always amazes me is that people are so shocked (sometimes angered!) that a teacher would homeschool his children yet not one parent has ever asked me, “What does he know that I don’t?”

 

I urge you to watch the Indoctrination documentary for profiles of some other teachers who came to this conclusion concerning their own witness within the public schools.

Of course, against these witnesses, I have this kind:

I am the product of a public school education, and throughout that experience, one thing stood out- I am different. My life is different, my calling is different. Because I belong to the Lord, I follow a different path from many of my classmates. That idea, that fact, that identity strengthened my faith. It was even more so emphasized when I saw my peers suffering the consequences of not living in the Light. Furthermore, I was able to bring several of my friends to Christ simply by living the way I knew was right.

Homeschool your children if it is what you think is best. Pull them out of public schools if you have any qualms about the school or district. But don’t point to public schools as the problem with our society. Perhaps the lack of children who know the Truth and the Light learning alongside children who are still lost- perhaps that is the problem with public schools today.

I don’t deny that believers are salt and light, wherever they go, or that both children and teachers who belong to Christ still belong to him even in the midst of the pagan culture of the school system. Nor do I deny that evangelism can happen quietly in schools.  What I do deny is that our culture can survive our forcing our children to digest all this evil along with whatever good they might be able to absorb from their families and church on nights and weekends.

I also deny that there is a choice to be made between being salt and light in the world or homeschooling. Saltiness is a condition of the soul, not a location of the body.

As to whether we can blame secular schools for our society’s problems, public schools raise something like 90% of American Christians, do they not? And how effective would you say this watered down, weak-kneed church is after all these years of secular indoctrination? And yet, this teacher would have us believe that that is because of some abdication of duty by the tiny percentage of Christians who don’t participate in the system, rather than the purposeful godlessness of the system itself!

Our “Christian” nation is more pagan every day, and yet public schools—the places that won’t even allow Christ as more than an item in social studies alongside every other god—aren’t even remotely to blame?

I quoted Ephesians 6: 11-12 in my last post in order to show that our fight is not against principals and teachers, but against principalities and spiritual forces of wickedness. If our fight isn’t against the unbelievers who run the system, then it certainly isn’t against those of our brothers who are still associated with it! Whether they are still in public schools out of harsh necessity, or simple disagreement, we are still brothers, and we can still behave lovingly toward one another.

Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.

–Ephesians 6:11-12

It seems fitting to use this same verse to point out that secular schooling, far from helping children put on the full armor of God, either ignores it completely or actively teaches against it.

Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God is one LORD: And you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might. And these words, which I command you this day, shall be in your heart: And you shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up. And you shall bind them for a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. And you shall write them on the posts of your house, and on your gates.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9

Sound doctrine demands constant teaching. Training children in righteousness is not done once a day, like taking a Jesus-pill in the morning, but all day long, like breathing. Sound doctrine must be lived in front of our children, not just drilled into them at AWANA (not that there’s anything wrong with AWANA). When good doctrine is replaced with secular education, children learn that godless authority is normal and desirable, that Jesus has a compartment in your heart, but not a throne over all the earth.

We have given the government authority to make our children over in its own godless image.

A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher.

What public school proponents fail to understand is that the teacher, in this case, is not the Christian at the front of the classroom, doing everything she can to plug the holes in the cultural dike, but the government that controls her curriculum.

When the “teacher” is the State, what kind of disciples can we expect to grow from that?

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Through a lack of strong teaching on the subject in this shallow age, most Christians find themselves unable to distinguish between blessings and the Curse.

A question from a reader:

Thank you for taking the time to write about subjects that are difficult for many Christians to digest & make sense of…

… I just wanted to ask what your opinion of children being born with down syndrome is about. Do you think its a generational curse passed down or a blessing in disguise?

My answer to the reader was this (slightly edited for public viewing):

I do not believe in generational curses in the literal sense that you seem to be using it here. I mean, yes, the Curse is passed from one generation to the next. Because of one man’s sin, we all are sinners. This is the doctrine of Original Sin, and it is sound teaching.

Tribes and nations also do tend to either increase or decrease  the effects of the Curse from generation to generation, through their acceptance or rejection of Christ and biblical living, which is health to our bones. That is the generational curse (and blessing) found in scripture. So, yes, sin is the ultimate cause of all pain, illness, and death. In this sense, Down’s Syndrome is indeed a result of sin in a general sense, the same way that my thyroid disease and my husband’s migraines are a result of sin, though not necessarily any specific sin that we’ve committed.

But the idea that a baby born with Down’s Syndrome or any other chromosomal abnormality or congenital illness is more cursed than us “normal” folks is pretty far off-base. I don’t believe that they are blessings “in disguise”, either! They are simply blessings, all the way down to their sweet little toes! I’m reminded of the time that Jesus healed a blind man, and the people asked him “Was this man born blind because of a sin he committed, or for a sin of his parents’?” Jesus answered them “This man was born blind so that God’s glory could be revealed in him!” And then Jesus healed him.

While Jesus doesn’t often (as far as I know) heal children with Down’s Syndrome, those babies will someday be healed in Heaven, right along with the rest of us, so that God’s glory may be revealed. In the meantime, they are image-bearers of God, and should be thought of as complete blessings, just like every other child.

The Curse affects every child, and every child is a blessing.

I thought that was a pretty good answer, but I want to expand on it a little bit because there is an assumption that is frequently made (not necessarily by this questioner, I hasten to add) about babies with Down’s Syndrome or other health problems. The assumption  is that some lives are, in and of themselves, more cursed than others. Too accursed, in fact, to be allowed to come into existence. The most obvious way that this thinking plays out is in the murder of something like 90% of God’s children who have Down’s Syndrome while they are still in the womb. These are, the thinking goes, lives unworthy of life. These abortions are murders, done in the name of compassion. No right-thinking Christian falls for that demonic “reasoning”. On that, I think most of us already agree.

However, there is a wide-spread understanding amongst modern American Christians (I don’t know any other kind but the modern American ones, unfortunately) that preventing life from ever being conceived can be compassionate in ways that stopping a heartbeat once begun is not. What could possibly be compassionate about allowing these pain-tarnished, expensive, abnormal lives to exist? we wonder. It’s not like we’re killing anybody! We’re just not making them in the first place!

Totally different ballgame, right?

But in this thinking, we reduce those potential lives to externalities, forgetting that they come endowed with souls that are created to give glory to God. Once we begin to think about the whole child, soul as well as body, we can just as easily ask those questions about the lives of those “normal” and “healthy” children we beg God to give us! What could possibly be compassionate about allowing these sinners to come into existence? My husband and I could have avoided bringing, not mere pain and expense and sickness, which everybody will have at some point in their lives, and which will end at the Resurrection, but sinners from coming into the world, if we’d only had the foresight to prevent their conception.

There’s no guarantee that our children are going to be true converts to the faith, is there? (Pray for your children.) Isn’t there some real risk that every time we make a baby we’re also making a soul for the daily expanding maw of Hell? And isn’t that a much more grave risk than some medically assigned percentage of risk of physical illness or premature death?  Shouldn’t all life be prevented, if we’re going to argue from possible (or even certain) outcomes? If we’re going to prevent life in the name of compassion, then let’s just go whole-hog, people!

Sigh. I was trying to engage in hyperbole, there in that last paragraph, but it occurs to me that I have actually seen that logic applied in the lives of (presumably) well-meaning Christian couples who have decided to “give their lives” to the saving of souls instead of joining God in creating more, rather than in addition to or through conceiving them. As if God had put some upper limit on the number of souls He is able to shepherd.

How did we get to a place in our understanding of God and sin and the curse where we think that some lives bear more of this Curse than others? That some lives are a waste of our lives, time, and resources? That suffering can’t be part of God’s plan? That there is a limit to how much we should have to sacrifice for our own young? That it is our job, rather than God’s, to decide to which lives–our own children or someone else’s–we will minister?

The fact is that every life that comes into existence is God’s life, to do with as He sees fit. If a child, before even being conceived, is found to have some measurable risk of being an alcoholic, a rapist, a murderer, should we, out of compassion, prevent it from being conceived? Or should we pray to God that He will heal, not only the bodies of the physically broken, but the souls of all of us? I was a waste of oxygen before Jesus  saved me, and a lot of my sinful propensities (substance abuse, fearfulness, sexual immorality, anger) are indeed genetically transmitted. If you don’t believe me, ask my similarly-afflicted family members. (Actually, don’t. That would be awkward, wouldn’t it?) These things are, in fact, a lot worse than being crippled or in pain, and yet God has seen fit to both give me life, and then give me life more abundantly, through his Son.

In our comfortable, micro-managed, affluent American lives, we believe–because it is simply more profitable to believe it–that we are not only allowed, but required to control our outcomes. We’ve figured out how to make everything come up roses. All we have to do to prevent the effects of the Curse is prevent life! Our answer to everything from poverty to broken relationships to genetic disease is the same: don’t let new babies introduce these difficulties to your life.

But the Lord said “be fruitful and multiply”. He said it to Adam and Eve before the Fall, and He said it to Noah and his family after the Fall. He knew when He said it that this blessing-command would result in all kinds of illnesses, deaths, and even souls lost–curses all–and He said it anyway.

Doesn’t God know what he is doing?

But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us…For we who live are always being given over to death for Jesus’ sake, so that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our mortal flesh…For it is all for your sake, so that as grace extends to more and more people it may increase thanksgiving, to the glory of God.

–2 Corinthians 4:7,11,15

 

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I’m sure some may have noticed the brief appearance of a post about Teach Them Diligently. You weren’t imagining things. I did write one, but it’s not there anymore, thanks to a 2 a.m. deletion which I’m really at loss to explain. I put it in the trash, and then I emptied the trash, and that was the end of that. Oh, well.  It didn’t give a very good picture of the convention anyway, thanks (I think) to my feverish state when I wrote it.

Where should I start, though? With the brilliant speakers? With my pile o’ stuff I brought home from the vendors? The amazing ability of six thousand or so people to crowd into one place without ever even a harsh word or raised eyebrow over the inevitable clumsy toe-steppings and stroller-bumpings? The photo-op with homeschooling mom Pam Tebow?

No, I think I’ll start with scripture, since bringing the life of the scriptures to the dead and broken world of “education” is what this convention is really about.

I thank my God upon every remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making request with joy, for your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now; being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.

–Philippians 1:3-6

Does this seem like a strange passage to choose? It isn’t. It’s how I feel, not only about the convention itself, its purpose and its fruits, but about the family of believers who’ve poured their whole souls into building Teach Them Diligently. I do thank God for this convention, and pray for those involved daily. Their vision is not simply for homeschooling, which is just the name we have for bringing up kids at home, but for the transmission of undefiled faith from generation to generation the Deuteronomy 6 way.

Of all the amazing things I heard and saw at this convention, what stood out most to me was what I didn’t see or hear. I didn’t hear anybody preaching “tolerance” for the modern pretense that biblical faith and real-world knowledge are two different things. I didn’t see anyone shy away from the Genesis account of creation because it’s too controversial. I didn’t hear a single speaker go outside the boundaries of God’s word to say ear-tickling things about the way Americans have been raising their children for the last few generations. In other words, I heard the kinds of things that comfortable people will warn you to stay away from. Radical things that, if taken seriously, will set the world on fire.

The central message, even in the nuts-and-bolts workshops, is that Jesus is the only real education, and that education without him is devoid of usefulness. You might get that from some speakers at every convention, but I suspect this is the only one where you can trust that everyone from the organizers to the vendors to the speakers rests their message on the centrality of Christ to the bringing up of children.

..being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.

God has begun a good work here, and I believe He is just getting started! What a blessing and a joy it is to be a tiny part of it!

Now, on to the rest of the stuff. I did, in fact, get a pile o’ books:

loot

Not a lot of actual “school” stuff in there because I’m doing Ambleside Online this year. More to come on that later. Catch Sonya Shafer’s Simply Charlotte Mason sessions if you can, Nashville and Omaha attendees! Her workshops were standing-room only, and for good reason. I’m newly inspired and more excited than ever about teaching my kids this way!

And a nifty bag:

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Alas, there was no pen in it. But there were a couple of useful inserts.

And, of course, the photo-op. Pam Tebow was an inspiring and sweet speaker. Teach Them Diligently bloggers got to meet with her for a quick face-to-face.

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We tweeted. A lot. (Whenever I say “I tweeted”, it feels like a euphemistic way of confessing to making impolite body noises. Just me? Yeah, probably. That’s usually how these things work, isn’t it? I confess something outrageous as if it were completely normal. You laugh at me.)

The Nashville convention, to which I’m daydreaming about running away for another brilliant weekend, but most likely won’t, is closed for online registration, but you can still pay at the door to get in. There’s room for everybody!

Omaha registration is still open, and the Marketplace will be coming soon, too!
Are you going?

Disclosure: Affiliate links? Yes. Read more about this stuff here.

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Unfortunately, I’m pretty sick with what appears to be the flu, so I won’t be able to give Titus 2 Tuesday the attention it deserves. I will do it next Tuesday, instead.

 

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Time to Go!

by Cindy on May 1, 2013

I’m so excited! I’ll be in Spartanburg tomorrow with the Teach Them Diligently Convention for a weekend of homeschool encouragement, curriculum shopping, and socialization.

I know. I said I’d be in Nashville, didn’t I? The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps. Thanks to some dental bills we didn’t anticipate (hillbillies have teeth!), a trip to Nashville turns out to be a wee bit too expensive for the whole family to make a vacation of it. Spartanburg is just a couple of hours away, though, and a gracious friend has offered to give me and the baby a bed to sleep in, so off I go!


If you haven’t already registered for TTD Spartanburg (you slacker), it’s too late to do it online, but you can still register at the door for $60 per family. Or you can hurry up and plan for the Nashville or Omaha conventions.

If you really just need to shop or the main conventions are too far away from your home, Teach Them Diligently is going to have nine (9!) curriculum fairs all around the nation. The Marketplace is a whole new way to experience Teach Them Diligently:


There will be featured speakers at The Marketplace, too, along with great deals on homeschool curriculum. It’s just $15 for a family registration, so do check that out if you’re in any of those areas of the country.

Now, I have to go pack, make food for the people I’m leaving behind tomorrow,  and bake a birthday cake for my mom and son. I hope to see some of you this weekend! Will you be there?

Disclosure: This post is chock full of affiliate links. If you click a link, I get paid. Nice, huh? As a Teach Them Diligently official blogger, my registration is covered by TTD. Additionally, they make me feel special for getting to promote them. I am, in other words, well compensated for pretty much everything I say about TTD.  Here’s your mommy blogger grain of salt.

 

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As we saw in my first post by the same name, these kids are not ours. They are God’s creations, just as we are, just as Adam and Eve were. We, their parents, have a God-given position of authority over these new lives He has so graciously woven into our family. This is the main reason I could never feel comfortable telling God “No. No more children, please. These blessings aren’t the ones I want.” I don’t know what He’s up to with these lives, but I know He’s up to something.

This understanding of God’s sovereignty over the lives of our children, completely apart from what we might want for ours, is also our reason for homeschooling.

In the lives of families, whose kids we believe these are will influence everything from whether we “choose” to have them, to how we discipline them, to how we speak to them, to…well, everything, really. There is no part of the parent-child relationship that isn’t affected by our understanding of to whom (or Whom) they belong. You can’t have a right relationship with your children if you think they are yours, for your own pleasure and purposes.

Even Christians who don’t see how this thinking applies to procreation believe that whatever children they do choose to have are beloved image-bearers of God. (And no, I am not questioning their faith. I just think they aren’t thinking about childbearing properly. Incorrect. Not going to Hell. K?) God’s ownership of each human life must be at the center of every relationship we have, but it is especially important to be mindful of it regarding our children. It is in that relationship that we have been given the most power, and therefore the most accountability before God, and we should behave accordingly.

The government doesn’t acknowledge God’s authority over anything that happens within the doors of public schools. They call it separation of church and state, but what it really is is separation of Christians from public life. It’s fine for you to have Jesus, kids, as  long as you keep him in your pocket, and not on your sleeve. (Locals, pay attention to that link. Our schools are NOT different.) For this reason, I can’t give them authority over my children. Having seen this truth plainly, it would not be God-honoring for me to do so.

There has been a storm brewing for decades over the question of to whom American students belong, and recent events point to an increase in the intensity of the storm. Meet the Romeikes:
Sign the Romeike petition!
The Romeikes are a German family who are facing deportation from the shores of the Land of the Free. Why? Did they break some immigration law? Blow up some marathon runners? Run drugs across the border? No. They homeschool. That is all that their government has against them, and that is all that our government has against them.

Let me repeat that, just in case it didn’t scare you enough the first time: Homeschooling is the only thing OUR government has against them.

The Romeikes face deportation for the simple fact that our government doesn’t think parents should be allowed to determine where their children go to school.

This is extremely frightening to homeschoolers, and rightly so. We see the shadow of a tyrannical boot lowering down toward our necks. But I don’t see much of a fuss being raised by non-homeschoolers–parents who, one would think, should like to protect their right to determine their own children’s upbringing without government interference, should they ever take a notion to do such a crazy thing.

This isn’t the only hint we have of the coming oppression, though:

Melissa Harris-Perry speaks only of the “responsibility” of the community to raise the kids, in order to sugarcoat the plain meaning of her words. But we’re (mostly) grownups here. As functioning adults, we know what must come with responsibility, don’t we? Rights!  What she is saying is that the community has a right to our children!

Here’s the thing, though. She’s not wrong. Not in a public school setting. Ask a teacher how hard it would be to do her job knowing that parents are putting all the responsibility for educating their children on her, but giving her none of the rights inherent to the job.

You, parents, are fouling up the system, and they need you to knock that off, please.

When I give someone responsibility for anything, whether it be to fix my car, do my taxes, babysit my kids, or administer my healthcare, I am also giving him the right  to do whatever he needs to do in order to accomplish these tasks.If I want someone to fix my car, I have to give him the keys. If I want someone to deliver my baby, I have to give her the right to see my naked self. So I am careful about who I give those rights to! Likewise, if I want the government to help me raise my kids, I give it the right to make decisions on how that is done.

We, parents, have the God-given responsibility for bringing up our children. All of the rights inherent in that responsibility accrue to us as well. We have a responsibility to hand over those rights to others only very, very carefully.

What I see, though, is that we tend to treat that transfer of rights as if it were less important even than who changes our oil! If a mechanic were to tell me that he had changed my oil, but I found, after driving away with a dry engine and destroying the motor, that he had failed to actually put more oil in, I’d go somewhere else the next time, wouldn’t I? That’s just a rational reaction. He destroyed my car!

How is it that schools, somehow, aren’t held to the same kind of standard, even though our children are infinitely more important than our cars?

What happens when public schools make poor decisions, not even because of mere mistakes, but because those poor decisions are baked right into the public school pie? Do I take away their responsibility–and hence, their rights–to raise my children after they prove themselves incompetent to do so? You’re darn right I do!

Not so, apparently, for some parents. The following news stories are disparate in their specifics. They are stories of different parents, outraged by different things, some serious moral infringements, some not so much:

Middle School Girl Bullied  into Asking for Lesbian Kiss as Part of “Anti-Bullying” Exercise

Students Assigned Anti-Jewish Propaganda Writing Assignment

Twin Falls Mom Seeks Apology After Child is Put on Wrong Bus

Father of Autistic Boy, Bullied by Teachers, Demands Apology

School Phases Out Popular Montessori-Based Instruction

What do these news items have to do with one another?

Helpless parents, is what. These “outraged” parents are proving what Melissa Harris-Perry and the Obama Administration already know: The government already has all of the educational responsibility, and therefore, they have all the rights. You give them away daily, parents.

In each of these cases, a parent or group of parents finds that the school system has somehow mishandled their children. And what is their response? Take away the child? No. That would be too extreme. They’ll hold meetings.  In these meetings, they’ll focus on getting permission slips next time, or improving the name tag system so no children will ever get on the wrong bus again, or maybe even not allowing certain topics to be discussed, temporarily.

Maybe a teacher will be reprimanded, or even sent on a paid vacation stamped “disciplinary leave”. Maybe somebody will lose an elected position. Maybe a little bit of the curriculum will be changed to appease the dudgeonous cries of the “offended”. Yes, heads will roll. A few of the soldiers in each of these parent vs. system skirmishes will fall.

But, because talking and voting are the only kind of fighting these parents are willing to do–they have a lot of other things to do, after all–the system that fostered these “mistakes” lives on and grows stronger. This time, the parents hold a meeting. Next time, they write a letter. The time after that…well, their kids have graduated now, and there’s a whole new crop of children to fall victim to educational malpractice. So the new set of parents will hold some meetings, too. This precise thing won’t happen again while that set of parents is looking, but something else will. The schools will behave themselves just long enough for the collective memory to turn over as the old classes move out and fresh meat moves in.

They don’t mind that you think you won, as long as you keep sending them your kids.

And the parents will keep sending their kids to the schools. The schools will continue to abuse the authority that parents give them. A few parents will call for meetings and apologies whine, and a few people in positions of nominal authority will have to apologize or be canned. The government doesn’t mind this in the least. The position will simply be filled with another foot soldier. Teachers and principals are expendable. The agenda is not.

The only thing that will work to stop schools that are designed to indoctrinate children to Godlessness, designed to make them faceless and nameless cogs in the economic machine, designed to keep parents out of the decision-making process, is to stop sending our God’s children there.

You can’t fix what isn’t broken. These kinds of malpractice are what public schools are built to do.

And while I’m offending people anyway, let me emphasize that homeschoolers aren’t much better in the language they use regarding these things. While the statists are proclaiming that “the village” or “the community” owns our children, we are proclaiming, just as loudly, and just as wrongly, that our children belong to us. They emphatically do not belong to us. They belong to God, and we have a responsibility to keep them for Him.

Even those who aren’t Christians have the God-given responsibility to behave as the primary human authority in their children’s lives. Some of my favorite homeschooling internet friends are atheists, but they know in their hearts that they, and not the state, are responsible for the lives of their children. They may be messing up on the spiritual front, but they put to shame the hapless parenting model of the 90% of American Christians that still send their children to public schools.

Homeschoolers, we need to stop framing this as a battle between parents and schools, and name this thing rightly: this is a battle for souls.

Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.

–Ephesians 6:11-12

It’s a battle for the liberty of the human soul, and we are losing because we want it to be about which human calls the shots. I think I understand where this timidity on our part comes from, homeschoolers. If we frame it as our “personal” decision, we don’t have to butt heads with our friends who would rather continue to send their children to these places.

Despite our happy talk, though, it is not a “personal conviction” to make sure your children are raised by people who acknowledge God in all ways. It’s a Biblical mandate. But we’re too chicken to say so. That might cause some heated discussions, mightn’t it?

If we homeschoolers and, even more urgently, other parents who haven’t exited public schools yet, don’t come to see the simple fact of God‘s ownership of their children soon, and begin to both speak and act accordingly, we are going to have our right to raise our children in our own way yanked from under us. Then we’ll have to do some real fighting to hold on to our rights, instead of these pretend battles where parents simply whine at the government for doing things that will neither be undone by their protests, nor prevented from happening again.

We can only lay claim to our God-given rights when we’re willing to shoulder our scriptural responsibilities. Parents have lived under the delusion that they can have one without the other for too long.

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How to Name Your Homeschool

by Cindy on April 17, 2013

I might not be the best person to ask.

The official school year is almost over, and there are decisions to be made about next year. If you’re thinking about homeschooling for the first time, or if you just moved to North Carolina (or some other state that requires you to name your school) you’ll need to take a few moments to choose a name for your school.

Naming your school isn’t difficult, but be thoughtful about it. In our home state, the name you choose is the name you’re stuck with. Forever. You can keep it simple, with just your family name (i.e. Smith Academy), or get really silly (Mrs. Brubaker’s School for Gifted Children Desiring Academic Excellence and Juicy Peach Pies). As far as I know, no one is going to turn down your application based on a boring or ridiculous name.

I’ve planned to homeschool since the first time I saw two lines on a pregnancy test, but I never got around to choosing a name for our school until the day before we registered with the DNPE. Who cares, right? Besides the bureaucracy, I mean.

Since I’ve been blogging about my hillbilly homeschool for a couple of years now (we started a couple of years before we were legally required to register), I naturally wanted to name ours The Hillbilly Homeschool for Jesus. If you’ve ever heard me talk, there really can’t be any doubt about my hill-dwelling heritage. I hope it’s equally obvious that we’re doing this for Jesus. So that’s a perfectly descriptive name for our school. Don’t you agree?

My husband–who is apparently the only adult in this family–is the final arbiter of these things, and he didn’t think this was funny at all. For one thing, he’s not a hillbilly. He spent a good bit of his childhood in New England, so the hillbilly label isn’t funny to him. For him, them’s fightin’ words.

Also, are we really going to make our children go through life with that on their diploma?

high_school_diploma2Well, no. It’s a joke, honey. Yeesh!

Given the fact that we’d be trying to get our children into college with that moniker on the transcripts, Jesse’s steadier head prevailed and we decided on Hillside Christian Academy. That’s a pretty solid name. Descriptive, respectable, presentable. Boring. It’s so perfectly normal I’ll bet at least four other families in these mountains chose that very name. I guess some things just can’t be made exciting.

Maybe some of you other parents have better imaginations than I do. What did you/will you name your homeschool?

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Working….(bumped)

by Cindy on April 12, 2013

If you never see me again, it is because hillbilly mommy bloggers were not meant to write books, and I died trying.

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Stay tuned!

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Confession time.

I’ve been homeschooling all this time, and I’ve never set foot in a homeschool convention. Not even a small conference. Ever. So no, you don’t have to go to homeschool conventions to figure out this homeschooling thing. However, there are about a gazillion good reasons you might want to go to one, even if you don’t have to. A gazillion is a lot, though. In my finite capacity, I only have enough time and energy to come up with five:

I’m going to Teach Them Diligently in Nashville. I know. You’re all like, “Huh? Why would that make me want to go a convention?” Not like I’m some kind of trendsetter anybody is rushing to imitate. Actually, quite the opposite. I am always the very last person to jump on a good idea. If I’m going this year, logic has it that this is probably the last homeschool convention EVER! Maybe you think there will be more later, but how do you know? Do you really want to go the whole rest of your life thinking “If only I’d listened to that hillbilly mommy blogger for a change”? I’m telling you, my track record for killing a trend should scare you into doing this thing right now. You may never have another chance. (UPDATE: You may now breathe easy, knowing that this will not be the last convention ever. This is because my family and I will be unable to attend after all. Dentists are expensive, and it turns out we have to pay one a lot of money very soon. UPDATE II: I might be going to Spartanburg. The future of conventions hangs by a thread.)

You get a tote bag. Yes, I know. Yet another trend everybody but me is tired of: free totes. But this one has a pocket!

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The pens probably aren’t included, but who knows? A little birdie told me there will be nifty things stuffed in each bag. There might be a pen in there. You’ll have to buy a ticket to find out.

Kids’ Program. There are groups for kids from ages four and up so the little ones have something to do and learn while you do and learn other things. You don’t have to leave your kids in a program, though, if you don’t like that sort of thing.  There will also be a comfy room to which nursing or restless little ones and their mamas may retreat. If you’re staying off-site, you’ll appreciate that.

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The speakers. The speaker list is HUGE and I really don’t like the idea of having to choose between all these wonderful topics. I wish I could clone myself and go to all of them, but then we’d have dozens of me running around and what would the neighbors think?

There are some big names on this list: Clay and Sally Clarkson, Ken Ham, Israel Wayne, Colin Gunn, Rachel Carman, Crystal Paine. My head is spinning! I look forward to hearing some of these. One word of advice, though. Don’t count out the smaller names. If you have to choose between a “star” and someone you barely know, but who is teaching a workshop you really need, go to the smaller session. It could be these little workshops that can teach you the most!

You get to paw the curriculum before you buy. OK, so “paw” isn’t the nicest word. Nice people “browse” or “peruse”. Me? I paw. Really, though, there will be a huge selection of vendors at Teach Them Diligently. I’m bringing my wishlist with me, and look forward to adding things to it once I get there and see all the shiny stuff I’ve never heard of before. I’ve gotten pretty good at staying within my budget these last few years, but this will probably be a test of my willpower.

Whether you’re a new homeschooler or an old hand–or even a non-homeschooling Christian with a desire to disciple your children more fully–Teach Them Diligently is a really, really good place to be this spring. I hope you’ll join me there!

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Disclosure:
There are affiliate links in this post. You click, I get paid. Nice, huh? As a Teach Them Diligently official blogger, my registration is paid for. My hotel and accommodations, however, are not, so you can be fairly sure that I really do LOVE these folks, or I wouldn’t be going. ;-)

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Chicken and Biscuits

by Cindy on April 8, 2013

Chicken and biscuitsI know. It’s spring, and who wants to spend an hour in the kitchen making cozy comfort food when there are walks to take in the sunshine and gardens to start? But there will still be some chilly, rainy days this month. You might get a chance to try this. If not, I’ll be sure to remind you of it come fall.

I created this recipe the way I usually do–in a panic because my meal plan fell apart and this was all I had in the pantry. Fortunately, I wrote it down as I went so I could do it again. We’ve had it twice since then, and it is now my very favorite comfort food.

I only do this with leftover chicken, but if you want to cook up a couple of breasts to start, it’s not that much extra work.

Cooking and prep times are approximate. Don’t do this on a day you’re in a hurry.

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Chicken and vegetables in a yummy gravy, topped with biscuits.
Ingredients
  • 2 cups cooked, diced chicken
  • 1 tablespoon butter or cooking oil
  • 1 medium onion
  • ½ cup celery, sliced thin
  • 1 cup carrots, diced
  • 1 cup mushrooms, sliced
  • 1 cup frozen peas
  • 3 cups chicken stock
  • 12 oz evaporated milk
  • 4 tablespoons butter
  • 4 tablespoons flour
  • ½ cup instant potato flakes (optional)
  • ¼ teaspoon dried thyme
  • ¼ teaspoon dried dill weed
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • ½ teaspoon pepper
  • 12 biscuits

Instructions
  1. Heat oven to 350
  2. In a large saute pan, saute onions, celery, and carrots in 1 tablespoon of butter until tender, about five minutes.
  3. Add mushrooms and cook until tender.
  4. Transfer vegetables to a 9×13 glass baking dish and mix in the diced chicken and frozen peas.
  5. Sprinkle the potato flakes over top of this.
  6. Melt 4 tablespoons of butter in the saute pan, then add flour. (If not using potato flakes, use an extra tablespoon of butter and flour for a thicker gravy.)
  7. Whisk for just a minute or two, to cook the flour a little, then add the chicken stock and evaporated milk.
  8. Add the thyme, dill, salt, and pepper.
  9. Stir over medium heat until the gravy begins to thicken, and then pour it into the baking dish.
  10. Give the whole thing a stir.
  11. Prepare biscuitsx3 and add them to the top.
  12. Bake for 30 minutes, or until biscuits are golden brown and the sauce is bubbly.

 

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Stereotypes

April 5, 2013

 Embrace the embarrassing. Last week, an article by a doctor who homeschools her children began making the rounds through homeschooling social media circles. I enjoyed the article, for the most part, and agreed completely with the points the mom made about homeschooling. Homeschooling is awesome for all the reasons she listed, and more! Welcome to [...]

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Easy, Scalable Biscuit Recipe

April 3, 2013

 I’ve searched high and low for a biscuit recipe that’s both simple enough to keep in my tiny brain and scalable without having to remember how many teaspoons goes into a tablespoon or needing to measure out a sixth of a cup of something.  Since I never found anything that suited me, I’ve evolved my [...]

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Titus 2 Tuesday: One Faithful Mom

April 2, 2013

Kindred spirits. Every now and then, somebody will leave such an insightful comment on this blog that I just have to follow the person’s link and find out who I’m dealing with. Sometimes that person proves to be a kindred spirit, and a real friendship grows up out of it. Even though I’ve never met [...]

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Men, Angels, and Clanging Brass

March 26, 2013

Know what else sounds like clanging brass? Smoke alarms. A little while ago, my friend Kelly wrote a post for Visionary Womanhood about one of the most often misused passages in the entire Bible. Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, [...]

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Eye Can Art Kits (Giveaway!)

March 15, 2013

We are art impaired at the Get Along Household. It’s not that I don’t enjoy trying to make art, but that I just lack that particular talent. In spite of my limitations, I do try to work something artsy in every week or so, just in case one of the kids is less handicapped than [...]

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Titus 2 Tuesday: Tina Jobe

March 12, 2013

Charity begins at home. Before ranging far afield to acknowledge the accomplishments of ladies who, while I admire them and have learned from them, aren’t actually on the list of people I could call for advice, I’d better first tip my hat to a real friend. While many women are struggling with being at home [...]

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Save Money on Baby Food

March 7, 2013

Make your own! I’m smashing and pureeing things at High Country Parent today. Join me?

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Titus 2 Tuesday

March 5, 2013

3Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and [...]

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Child-Free and Loving It

March 1, 2013

Not me. Them. In my latest insomnia-fueled excursion around the internet I ran across the above-linked article at The Daily Beast. Go read it. I’ll wait here… It’s quite a piece of work, isn’t it? It is, in case you were too smart to take the bait, an article cobbled together from reader comments that [...]

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Bloggers and You (the Reader)

February 21, 2013

Let’s talk about us, shall we? I have no doubt that someone, somewhere, has said that the first rule of blogging is that you never talk about blogging. Newspapers don’t often talk about the newspaper business on the front page, and bloggers don’t talk about their WordPress dashboard. It’s just not done. I’ve never been [...]

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Running Ahead of the Teacher

February 18, 2013

Don’t do that, kid. You’ll just confuse yourself. One of the advantages of being a fairly smart kid is that you usually pretty well know where the teacher is going before she gets there. (Smart on paper, anyway. Not too swift, some who know me might note, in other respects.) Either you’ve already read that [...]

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On Pain

February 14, 2013

I finally figured it out. It will sound crazy to most people, I’m certain, but then, most of the time when one of us flawed humans utters the phrase, “I’ve finally figured it out”, the rest of us tend to don hard hats, hip waders, or whatever other analogy you like to signify the expectation [...]

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When Motherhood Feels Too Hard

February 12, 2013

What? You never feel that way? I’m sure this will come as a complete surprise to long-time readers, but I’m not the self-help or advice-seeking type. I don’t, as a rule, do devotionals. For my personal devotion time, I have a Bible. I read it, then I pray. I read other religious works, too, of [...]

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Here There Be Dragons…

January 31, 2013

Curriculum and schedule update Since I started out our year with a post about how I hoped to do things, I’m sure some (especially more seasoned moms who know better) are asking “So, how’s that working out for ya?” Actually, pretty well, all things considered! I hate to admit it, but this is the first [...]

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Staying Sane with Lots of Small Children

January 28, 2013

Recently, a new reader contacted me with the following concern: I have a 2.5 yr old son and an 8 mo old daughter.  I would like a big family but wonder if I’d be able to handle it.  I enjoyed reading a few of your blogs about having 5 and the comments people make to [...]

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